Kim Lacefield began to consider those children who were not loved after being married for 12 years and having three children.
Not long after she began blogging her prayers and asking God if she should foster or adopt, she received a phone call that would forever alter the direction of her life.
Kim received a call from the police station requesting that she find a home for her ‘godchildren,’ but she had no idea who they were.
“It turns out they were from a woman who had attended our church seven months earlier,” Kim told Love What Matters.
Kim consented to take in the boys, six, eight, and ten years old.
“Thirty minutes later, three small faces appeared at my door. They wore only what was on their backs, lacked a toothbrush, a blanket, or a beloved pillow.”
She recalled their terrified expressions when they arrived at her house, unaware of who she was.
The following day, two of the boys could return to their original father, but the 6-year-old remained with her for a year.
“How much I admired him. I was aware that he was the son of a newly released prisoner who loves his son. I aided him in regaining custody of his son. That may seem strange, but the finest present a child can receive is a biological parent who is healthy and desires them. If there was anyone who deserved a second chance, it was this father, who was willing to drive ten hours to make his visits.”
As Kim prepared to relinquish her adorable six-year-old son to his father, she received a call to take in a five-year-old girl.
“Later that day, she entered my house with a garbage bag containing her clothes. I was forced to return it outside and put it on the doorstep. She had lice on her head, her body, and pinworms. She claimed to have come from a filthy foster home where she was forced to lie on the floor. Indeed, she had changed residences five times in six weeks.”
The girl who had been through so much proved difficult for Kim, who claimed she could not communicate her emotions. She tried to treat the girl’s lice and illnesses, and when it was time for her to return to school, her instructor remarked on her tardiness.
“It wasn’t long before I received calls from the school inquiring as to what was happening. In first grade, she was unable to trace the letter ‘L.’ She soiled her clothes and refused to replace them.”
Fortunately, the school partnered with Kim and established a strategy to help her recover her footing. By the end of her first year, the infant had made such advances that she earned the moniker’miracle child.’
“Teachers and school social workers were astounded at how far she had come in just one year. Many children who enter care are emotionally five or more years behind their chronological age.”
She received a call two weeks after taking in her now 6-year-old daughter to take in her 2-year-old sibling.
‘She appeared to be terrified.’
“She was cohabiting with a relative. She had a shattered arm and several blemishes on her skin. “She came to me during the day when her sister was in school,” Kim recalled. Initially afraid, she raised her eyes to my wall of images and whispered, ‘Addy.’ That was her sister, she recognized. That was an unforgettable moment. It has established a strong desire in me to preserve sibling groups.”
The following year, the children’s biological mother signed over her rights to Kim and her husband. Nonetheless, their father, who was doing time in prison, fought for three years to retain his rights as their father.
Kim ensured the girls kept touch with their biological mother, knowing that their original mother desired them but was unable to offer the parent they deserved.
“On many instances, she has been admitted to and dismissed from therapy. She genuinely cares about her children, and we all adore her. She pays visits throughout her most prosperous periods of life. Wherever possible, I believe that children should maintain contact with their birth parents. I am cognizant of the possibility that some will take a conflicting position. When I work with people who have had bad childhoods, it makes a huge difference to know that their original family wants to help them. ”
Kim then received word that the children had been approved for adoption.
“I’ve desired adoption since I was a small child. Even as a child, the thought of children being unloved gave me restless nights,” Kim explained.
“The courts facilitated the adoption of both daughters last week on the occasion of (the younger sister’s) seventh birthday, five years after she came to me with a broken arm.
‘Having five girls is a lot of fun.’
We have grown to a family of nine, with two of my oldest children recently graduating and moving out.
“Having five girls is a lot of fun; there’s a lot of hair and cosmetics involved, as well as a lot of emotion!”
When the alternative of going home becomes untenable, Kim and her husband continue to foster and adopt.
“I frequently hear this: ‘I could never do what you do; I’d become too attached.’ ‘That is just what the children require,’ I respond. If you do not become attached, you are doing it incorrectly.’ Children deserve to be loved. It is preferable for me to suffer than for them to continue to suffer.”
What a lovely family this couple has built; being a foster parent is such a selfless act, and I’m so glad these girls found their way into Kim’s life and received the love and forever home they deserve.