As time went on, the couple tried every method they could think of to have a child. They eventually gave up and accepted that they would only be aunt and uncle for the rest of their lives. Then they got a text that changed their lives in a split second.

When the couple could not conceive naturally after their marriage in January 2018, they turned to assisted reproductive technology (ART).

“We even considered following unsolicited advice from friends, family, and strangers but ultimately decided against it. We tried, prayed, and waited for 14 months before success—month after month, year after year. After a negative pregnancy test, another negative pregnancy test is performed. It appeared like we would require outside assistance to conceive. We even went so far as to discuss it with medical professionals.”


In the end, it looked like the doctors didn’t help the two of them very much. They all told Sadie that if she lost weight, she would get pregnant. So she had gastric surgery and lost 28 pounds.

Sadie’s OB-GYN told her how excited she was about the weight loss and how proud she was of her.

When Sadie went to the doctor, she told her that if she didn’t get pregnant in six months, she would send her to a fertility specialist because she couldn’t give her the fertility medication. “I was so excited about that. I couldn’t believe it.” Finally, we got something that wasn’t a no! We got a “not right now,” and we were happy.

As soon as the couple had given up trying to have a baby, Sadie got a text from a friend asking if they would be willing to foster a baby that a couple she knew was thinking about getting.

A caseworker told the couple at first that they had to take care of the baby while the mother got help. The couple was a little afraid at first, but they agreed. This is what the couple thought: They were worried they’d become too attached to the child. But soon after that, the story changed.

Birth mom: “The caseworker told us that you and your partner should adopt the child instead.”


As soon as Sadie found out, she was going to be a mother, “Holy crap! I said out loud.”

There were no kids in our family. We thought about fostering one. “You guys are now parents,” they said. In the middle of listening to the case worker, I couldn’t believe what she said. It was time to hang up. I called my husband instead. ‘Babe!! They want us to take the baby in and raise it. Some people want us to raise our kids. ‘Wait! REALLY?! The man said, “I thought they were just trying to get us to take care of him.” ‘Nope! ‘They want us to be his mother and father.'”

Their weekend was spent processing the shocking news and preparing for the possibility that their mother would change her mind, so they had to be ready.

Everybody was happy to hear that the mother still wanted them to adopt the baby, but she wanted to do it independently. She was ready to sign on Monday.


Their son was born at 33 weeks, seven weeks early. Sadie wrote, four pounds, Five Ounces: It was like he fit in one of her husband’s hands.

The couple shared their news on social media, and they were told to make a gift list. They put up 72 things, and 55 of them had been bought in three days.

They had the cutest family photos taken when they adopted Ezra Lee in October 2020. They wore t-shirts that said, “family doesn’t have to match.”

Embryos were given to Sadie and Jarvis in 2021 to have twin girls, Journee and Destinee. Their family motto is “Families don’t have to match.” The black couple had a boy and two girls born to them – a boy and two girls.


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